not happy

today was a pretty eventful day in the kids world. i picked them up from school and didn't get the usual hugs. ?? i said "what's up today?" younger says "sister got in a fight with everyone at school." "what?" then older tells me "school sucks and everybody hates me." knowing there was more to it i pryed "oh my goodness...what happened?!" she goes on to tell me that they were playing a game and then the boys split up and started playing separately, then the next thing she knows everyone is throwing gravel at her. ok-this is when my momma bear surfaced again. remember here when we stopped talking to bob & gracie? well...i kept asking very calmly "well why did that happen?" or "and then what?" pretty soon i was boiling mad. i found out the school counselor got involved and her teacher (who doesn't particularly care for her-don't get me started) almost cried when she was yelling at the class because she was so upset. now i know there are 2 sides to every story and i know she tells me just the parts she wants me to hear and i know i jump to conclusions. it's a family trait. i lovingly call it my italian side. so i brought myself down a notch and said "is there anything i should know before i go in there tomorrow with guns ablazing?" (by guns ablazing i do not mean real live guns-i meant my arms but i'm sure she thinks i'm going in packing heat.) and she goes "well the counselor said whoever doesn't apologize to me tomorrow has to stay in and write a report on respect." and i said "ok, i'll wait until friday then. so you'll tell me the truth right, you're not just going to tell me what i want to hear right?" and she said yes. i think it helped her see that me and the school counselor and her teacher are all on her side. bless her little heart. she was sobbing by the time she got to the car! grrrrr.